A couple at a warm Melbourne laneway wine bar with city lights beyond

The Lifestyle, Down Under · Melbourne

Swinging & the lifestyle in Melbourne

Laneways, wine bars & the lifestyle. Melbourne is Australia's swinging capital — and it shows.

Melbourne is Australia's swinging capital — and it shows. The most varied scene in the country: a genuine wine bar with play rooms, relaxed house parties, structured clubs, and the most iconic annual ball Down Under. It's also the easiest place to dip a toe.

Why Melbourne?

Melbourne has the deepest, most varied scene in Australia — and a reputation as the country's swinging capital. Victoria also runs an affirmative-consent model, which fits the scene's enthusiastic-yes standard. Best of all, the range of venues means there's an entry point for every comfort level, from a glass of wine to a full night out.

Inside a warm, dimly lit Melbourne lounge with stylish guests mingling — Melbourne's scene runs from genuine wine bars to house parties — there's a room for every comfort level.

The clubs

Between Friends Wine Bar — a wine bar, with extras

In Balaclava, Between Friends pulls off a genuinely unique concept: a quality wine bar with play rooms attached. Swap your usual wine-bar night out for this one and get a learning experience as a bonus. Couples nights Friday and Saturday; single men only on dedicated MFM events.

Coco's — the welcoming house party

Running since 2016, Coco's is a relaxed, inclusive two-level house party about 20 minutes from the CBD. Easy-going and unpretentious — a soft landing for newer couples.

Swingers Couples Club — over-45, no pressure

An East Melbourne house party for the over-45 crowd, couples and single women only, with a deliberately relaxed, no-pressure atmosphere.

Saints & Sinners Ball — the icon

Australia's most iconic annual swinging event calls Melbourne home. If you only do one big night, this is the one to circle.

New to all this?

Melbourne is the easiest place in the country to dip a toe — Between Friends is literally a wine bar. Go for the drinks and the company; play only if and when you want to. Coco's is a gentle first house party, and the over-45 crowd has Swingers Couples Club to itself.

Start gentle — Between Friends is a real wine bar — go for the drinks, play only if you want.
Consent is the whole game — Victoria's affirmative-consent model matches the scene's enthusiastic-yes standard.
BYO & dress to impress — most venues are BYO; smart on arrival, change down later.
Discreet by design — your identity stays yours, on CheekyRoo and at the door.